The title is intriguing isn’t it?? I thought it would get your attention.
Here’s the scoop…I’ve been seeing a trend lately where the only thing I hear from my married friends is everything that is wrong with their husbands. I am the first one to admit that there are probably a LOT of
valid things we wives can find “wrong” with our husbands ~ not helping out around the house enough, not finishing our “honey-do” lists, not spending quality time with the kids, etc. But I believe if we continually focus all of our attention on these not-so-pleasant areas of our mate, it won’t be long before we forget why we married them in the first place. So, instead of always noticing the things my hubby doesn’t do, I am going to choose to notice the things he does do. Beginning September 1, 2012, I want to focus on one thing each day that my husband does that makes my heart melt, something that I would normally take for granted, and share it with you. The goal is to highlight 30 different ways that I love him, and to do it in 30 days. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with our marriage. But I want to keep it that way and to let him (and the world) know just how much I do notice what he does for me and our family on a daily basis.
I hope you will join me on this journey of discovery with your own husband, or maybe even your child(ren). I am betting when the month is over, we’ll have a LOT less to complain about. Before I get started, I want to share a picture from our wedding day. This is the day our exciting adventure began…
Thirty Ways I Love My Husband….(in no particular order)
Day 1: I love the way my husband loves me! He is so tender, kind, affectionate and patient! I can honestly say that at least one time each day (usually more) he will tell me that he loves me, that I’m beautiful, that he’s the luckiest man to have me… I could go on. Even when I’m cranky, he will put his arms around me, smile and tell me that I’m cute when I’m cranky. I am so blessed!
Day 2: This is fitting since today is Sunday…but I love the way my husband loves the Lord! He is so passionate about the Great Commission and making disciples all around the world. There is something special about seeing your mate surrender his life and willing to sacrifice everything he has to serve the Lord. I am honored to be his helpmate.
Day 3: Today I love the way my husband is vulnerable with me. Most men don’t share their thoughts or anxieties with anyone, let alone their spouse. But my man shares almost everything with me ~ to the point where I probably know him better than he knows himself. He is so open and honest even when its hard to be and I believe that makes our intimacy so much deeper. We truly are best friends!
Day 4: I love the way I “catch” him looking at me. Sometimes I will look over at him to say something, and he’s just sitting there staring at me. The love he has for me shines in his eyes and is so comforting. I find myself doing the same thing…just looking at him for no reason at all and sometimes he’ll catch me. It’s like a little game we play, but I think I’m better at not getting caught!
Day 5: I love the way my husband takes care of us. Being a self-employed rancher, he is constantly thinking about ways to provide for our everyday needs. Not only that, but he finds ways to pamper us with little indulgences. Just yesterday he wanted to bless me with a spa day! Oh how I love those….but I declined it, not because I didn’t want it (I so desperately do!) but because I just don’t have the time right now. However, I may be able to find time for a mani/pedi as a substitute!
Day 6: I love the way my husband goes out of his way to do something for me. Even when he has a busy day ahead of him, he’ll ask me if there is anything he can do for me that would make my day easier. I usually don’t take him up on the offer, but it sure is a blessing knowing that he would be there if I needed him.
Day 7: I love the way my husband is so positive! Yes, he has those moments where he gets discouraged or disappointed, but they don’t last for long! He is almost always bubbly and happy ~ a vibe I love to be around!
Day 8: I love the way my husband tells a story. He is so captivating and interesting to listen to ~ even if he has already told the story before. I could sit and listen to him all day long.
Day 9: I love the way my husband always makes time for his little girl. She LOVES to ride on the four-wheeler, and the horse, and even if he’s busy, he’ll put her on and let her go for a ride. He loves seeing her smile, and that makes me smile.
Day 10: I love the way my husband laughs! I can be having a terrible, stressful day and if I hear him laughing, my mood instantly lightens. It’s contagious too ~ even Anna Laura perks up and smiles whenever she hears her daddy laugh.
Day 11: I love the way my husband leans over to kiss me goodnight after we pray. I try to go to bed when he does, but I am usually up late working on a sewing project while Anna sleeps. But when we do head to bed at the same time, he’ll always end our prayer with a kiss. And then I fall asleep with a smile…
Day 12: I love the way my husband supports my sewing hobby & business ~ even when it means taking me to the fabric store ALL the time!! (I am a confessed fabric-aholic!) He enjoys seeing me happy and knows that is one way to bring a smile to my face!
Here is another picture from our wedding ~ I have just been presented with my “tribal headpiece” as we entered the reception. The ladies were singing and dancing as they put it on my head. It was an amazing experience!
Day 13: I love the way my husband encourages me in my ministries. He is my biggest supporter ~ always inspiring me to keep going, to go farther and to stay strong ~ reminding me often of how proud he is of me. I’ll never get tired of hearing that!
Day 14: I love the way my husband plays the banjo. He doesn’t play it as much as he used to, but when he brings it out of it’s case everyone loves to hear him play, especially Anna Laura. When I was pregnant with her, Steve would play the banjo and she would literally “dance” inside of me. She still goes nuts whenever her daddy plays ~ it’s her favorite!
Day 15: I love the way my husband loves my parents. Today is my mother’s birthday and thinking of the relationship they have with each other makes me smile. Many couples aren’t fortunate enough to have a loving relationship with their spouse’s parents, but my parents love him so much and we all have such a great time when we’re together.
Day 16: I love the way my husband tells me he enjoys being with me. He’ll look at me, smile and say, “I just love spending time with you!” It doesn’t matter if we’re out on a date, or just grocery shopping, we make it a point to enjoy each others company.
Day 17: I love the way my husband tries to dance! He is so cute… and totally uncoordinated! Although he’s a good slow dancer, you can’t help but
laugh smile at his attempts to bust-a-move!
Day 18: I love the way my husband chips in to help me around the house. He’s always willing to lend a hand whenever I need it.
Day 19: I love the way my husband can juggle doing so many things at one time. He amazes me at how he can seem so calm on the outside while navigating so many things in his mind. With ministry, business, church and family all going on at the same time ~ he always manages to have everything under control.
Day 20: I love the way my husband makes time to have breakfast with our little one almost every morning. As soon as she wakes up, he goes into her room, gets her out of bed and has “daddy/daughter” time with her. He makes her anything from toast to bacon and eggs and she enjoys their time together so much (and I get to enjoy a little sleeping in time!)
Day 21: I love the way my husband misses me when we are away from each other. I can hear it in his voice when we talk that he longs for us to be together again, even if its just been one day. I just love that…
Day 22: I love the way my husband encourages me to continue my education. I was in the middle of working on my masters degree in Intercultural Studies when we were blessed with little Anna and he often encourages me to get back to my studies so I can complete my degree. If I can only find a few more hours in my day that might be an option.
Here’s another picture from our wedding ~ this one is of the Zulu dancers at our reception! They were awesome!
Day 23: I love the way my husband hates chocolate! It leaves more for me!
Day 24: I love the way my husband lets me watch football even though he is not a fan. His sport is baseball (which I detest!) yet if there is a football game on, he’ll relinquish the remote to me!
Day 25: I love the way my husband and I love to travel together. With our ministry and our business, we travel a LOT and we always try to travel together even if it ends up costing us more in the long run. We value our time together and make the necessary adjustments to make it happen.
Day 26: I love the way my husband reaches over and holds my hand for no reason. We could be driving, walking in the mall or grocery shopping and he’ll just reach over and grab my hand.
Day 27: I love the way my husband makes me feel safe. (no extra words needed!)
Day 28: I love the way my husband relies on me to keep up with his calendar and important meeting/business dates. It lets me know that he truly trusts me and has confidence in my organizing skills.
Day 29: I love the way my husband shows affection for me when we’re in public. It’s enough to let me (and others) know that he loves me, but not so much to make it uncomfortable.
Day 30: I love the way my husband makes “date night” a priority. Every Friday night is our standing date night (even if we have to take Anna Laura with us) and to know he thinks about it and looks forward to it makes me feel so special and loved.
I really enjoyed this 30-day challenge and I could go on and on and on, finding so many more “ways” that I love my husband! Yes, there are times that we struggle in our relationship, which is normal, but this challenge only reconfirmed that I am truly a blessed woman to have him in my life and I wouldn’t be who I am today without him. I love you Steve!
I’d love for you to take on this challenge too and share your daily “ways” with us! Together we are stronger and you may share a “way” that inspires someone else! Please comment and share below!